How Can Counselling Help?

Counselling psychotherapy can help in many ways, depending on your personal needs and motivation. For many, having the opportunity to talk in a safe and confidential place is enough. Often speaking to friends and family about your worries or concerns or the support they may offer, or not, might not provide the kind of comfort or help you are looking for. You may not wish to involve them in your difficulties or feel that they may not understand. Counselling psychotherapy eliminates this problem and offers you the space to explore your own thoughts with someone who is neutral and unbiased. Why now? Counselling psychotherapy can help before your worries or concerns mount up that you begin to find it difficult to cope.

Counselling psychotherapy will help you uncover your own awareness and understanding of your problems and help you work towards resolving them yourself. Through gaining a wide understanding of your emotions and feelings in relationships past and present, childhood experiences, social, cultural or environment influences, a greater choice of options in how to relate to these personal experiences and relate to other people in the future can emerge. This can often contribute to improving your emotional and physical well-being, confidence, self-esteem and in developing a more fulfilling life.

What Can Counselling Help With?

Counselling psychotherapy can be helpful in exploring the way you think or feel, as well as resolving problems or issues that are influencing your life. Common areas often covered in counselling psychotherapy are:

  • Anxiety
  • Anger
  • Confidence
  • Control
  • Isolation
  • Illness
  • Loneliness
  • Low self-esteem
  • Lack of motivation
  • Relationships difficulties
  • Stress
  • Trauma

Other areas addressed in counselling psychotherapy can include the following: Please click on the subject to read more below.


There are many different types of abuse including sexual, physical, domestic, violent, childhood, emotional, self-harm or bullying – where the treatment of others is harmful to yourself. Counselling psychotherapy offers a safe place to understand the psychological repercussions and work towards addressing these issues.


Counselling psychotherapy can help with exploring the root causes of the dependency and underlying problems while helping to develop new ways of thinking, whether the addiction is physical, substance or activity based.

Bereavement and Loss

Losing a loved one can be a traumatic experience leaving you feeling lost, confused, and angry or many other emotions. Counselling psychotherapy offers the chance to express how you feel and provide an opportunity to process and resolve any remaining issues you may have and come to terms with the loss.

Body / Eating Disorders

Body / Eating disorders are becoming increasingly common and can be serious or life threatening. Counselling psychotherapy can help you understand your thoughts, perceptions and expectations by providing a supportive and encouraging environment.

Cultural and Social issues

Living with the impact of multi-cultural, multi-racial or changing social expectations can cause immense pressures and challenges to fit in, whilst maintain your own identify and values. Counselling psychotherapy acknowledges the impacts that these issues can have, offering a safe place to address the problems and work towards achieving the life you hope.


Depression is a complex condition, which affects one in four people at some time in their life. The symptoms can range from a feeling of low mood through to overwhelming despair and last for several weeks or more. The effects on the mind as well as the body can prohibit you from leading a normal life or if left unresolved may lead to thoughts of suicide. There are many different types of depression; the most commonly known ones are Clinical Depression, Postnatal Depression and Seasonal Affective Disorder. Counselling psychotherapy can help to uncover and explore the underlying reasons causing the symptoms of depression, whilst working towards understanding your feelings in a more positive way.

Health Related Issues

Counselling psychotherapy can help if you are worried about your health or coming to terms with a diagnosis. Dealing with feelings such as ‘why me’, anger or hopelessness and the impact of illness on your life and others around you may seem overwhelming. Working through these feelings can help relieve the stress and anxiety of living with illness.

If you are a carer for someone and need support, counselling psychotherapy can offer a safe and confidential place to work through the feelings of frustration, helplessness, resentment or whatever the issues is that you face on a daily basis.

Mental Health Issues

Suffering from mental health issues such as Schizophrenia, Bipolar, Asperger’s, Obsessions, Post Traumatic Stress, Panic Disorders, Acute Anxiety and Phobias can feel terrifyingly isolating. Through discussing the feelings that arise in conjunction with these kinds of mental health issues, counselling psychotherapy can help with overcoming personal challenges, frustrations or the causes of these.


Intrusive thoughts or obsessions affect everyone. If you are finding it difficult to cope or compulsions are affecting your life detrimentally, counselling psychotherapy can help to explore patterns of behaviour and find new ways of coping.

Sex / Sexuality

Whether you are worried about sex or the demands your partners makes upon you, if sex is no longer enjoyable physically or emotional, counselling psychotherapy can help you look at why the change happened and find some answers.

Regardless of age, many people battle with the confusion of their sexuality causing anxiety and confusion. You may have realised you are gay, lesbian, transsexual or transgender and have strong feelings for the sexual orientation of your preferred partner. Or you may be struggling with working out your feelings and confused about your sexuality. Counselling psychotherapy can provide a safe and confidential place in which to explore your feelings, develop your own understanding and gain the confidence of what is right for you. Other issues include coping with prejudice, attack and acceptance amongst the people in your life.


Emotional and psychological trauma can result from one or several events in your life, culminating to impact many aspects of your life, leaving you feeling helpless to the traumatic symptoms known as Post Traumatic Stress. Trauma can also result from long-term stress such as sustained abuse, victimisation and persecution. The symptoms of trauma can manifest in many ways, often occurring much later after the event. Counselling psychotherapy can help you acknowledge and process the trauma related memories, whilst re-learning how to understand emotions and rebuild trust.

Work related issues

Work environments often cause stress, sleeplessness, frustration, impact on your health, cause you to question your self-esteem, dread work, resort to negative behaviours, financial worries or neglect relationships. Counselling psychotherapy can offer the opportunity to air your grievances and work towards finding solutions to a balance between work and daily life.

For more information on what counselling psychotherapy can help with, please see the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP) What can therapy help with website.

Contact Me

Counsellor and Psychotherapist for Hertford and surrounding areas. If you would like further information or to make an appointment for an initial session, please call my confidential telephone number on 07710 449995 or contact me by This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..